8.13.2009

Online dating

For some reason--perhaps a mixture of loneliness, boredom, and anxiety about my upcoming reunion--I created a profile at Match.com. I haven't taken the next step of subscribing, but I think it is only a matter of time.

I don't know what this says about my psychological-emotional state post-Floyd. What I do know is that I am ready to start looking and to start thinking about what I really want in a life partner. I won't ever settle again.

I'm skeptical about online dating. Sure, I have friends who have found great guys online, but I've heard about the undercurrent hookup culture on some sites as well.

Part of me feels that activating my profile signals laziness or fear in seeking guys the old fashion way--at mixers or through mutual friends and extracurriculars. I mean, I haven't even given manhunting an honest try before hiding behind my computer. Yet, for a closet wallflower/awkward-around-boys gal like me it seems like the best and perhaps, only real option.

2 comments:

Organica said...

yaaaay! go for it! if i were to become single, i would totally go on a few Match.com dates. it's not a bad idea to go on dates just for the fun of it, too - not necessarily looking for a life partner. it will help you figure out what kind of guys you like. don't worry too much about the hookup culture - just don't go home with a guy at the end of the night! ;)

my theory - if YOU are on Match.com, there must be a guy like you on it, too, who is skeptical about online dating and doesn't just want to hook up but is hoping to find someone special...

Megan said...

Match or any other dating site can be pretty intimidating at first - but it's nice that you can poke around for as long as you want without doing anything. Nothing wrong with getting your feet wet.